When I was young, I didn’t know what I wanted to do, but I always knew it would be something in the Business field. My last 3 jobs were the assistant to a CEO, assistant to a President and an assistant to a VP. I was the go-to person. The one expected to have all the answers and if I didn’t, I needed to find them yesterday.
At this point, I had 1 daughter. Even tho I loved working, I felt guilty every time I dropped her off in the morning. I felt guilty when I wasn’t able to be at all her school events. And I felt guilty when I didn’t make special, homemade treats for her classmates on her birthday.
When I had my second daughter I quit my job to be a Stay-At-Home-Mom (SAHM.)
I was now able to do all those things that made me feel guilty for missing so I should have been happy right?? Nope!! I went through a major identity crisis and kinda went crazy. I felt guilty because I wasn’t working and “contributing” to the family. I found my identity in making money. Once that was taken away from me, I didn’t know who I was. I felt like a liability to our family instead of an asset. (The sad thing is this was the second time I went through this not making money identity crisis thing. But that is for a different blog on another day.)
I have 3 daughters now and I won’t say I’m over the crazy, I’m a hot mess and that will never change, but I’m over the identity crisis.
I am a SAHM. I have food smeared on my shirt, pick up toys, vacuum the floors, do the dishes, the laundry, constantly tell a toddler “stop that” and change 1 million diapers every day. Right now, my place is in the home and I’m, ok with that. I love that I stay home. I’m fortunate my husband works hard so I can.
We went grocery shopping today. The toddler threw a fit because I wouldn’t let her have the “brown pretzels” or walk around barefoot and the baby puked everywhere. Oh well. I just had to deal with it and move on. We all survived, therefore I’ll call this grocery store experience a success!
Mammas, listen to me.
Let go of the mom guilt that creeps up and realize YOU.ARE.AWESOME!!! No matter where you find yourself BE YOU! You are setting an example for the little people watching you and your actions teach more than your words. If you are a SAHM, rock it! You’re doing the hard work that no one sees but all appreciate. If you’re a working mom, rock it! You’re showing your kids responsibility and work ethic.
Formula vs. breast milk. Cloth diapers vs. disposables. Fresh green beans vs. canned. Organic vs. non organic. Day care vs. nanny. Public school vs. homeschool. Frozen vs. homemade lasagna. The list goes on and on…
Your life doesn’t have to look like anybody elses so don’t let their opinions get to you. It’s your life so live it. Love your babies to the best of your ability. Take a deep breath. It’s all gonna be ok.
So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 1 Cor 10:31.